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Moment in Time

  You are the little spoon, my hand cradled around your tummy.  Moments earlier you had mimicked my every move. Sipping at my sleepy tea, spilling it all down your pyjamas. Rubbing hand cream onto your face. Lying on me as I do my bedtime stretches. I try to breathe normally, deeply, to relax. I tentatively stretch out my legs, roll back my shoulders, nestle my head down into the pillow.  A puppy dog nesting down for the night, walking around and around until the bed feels just right. That’s you. That’s me. You shuffle a little and then your soft breathing tells that you are asleep. We have done this countless times. And I know you will grow. But right now, this feels like forever. The late-night snacks, the reluctance to sleep alone, the reliance on the breast. Dad’s grumpy startle as your little legs kick him in a tender place. We all three, tug at the duvet on the queen bed which we seem to have outgrown.  You wake briefly and crawl around singing, stroking my fac...
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The Journey Home

In a cold bed, in a damp room, in a dark house in the depths of a valley I entertained ideas of running away. Away from obligation, responsibility, board payments, job expectations, early mornings and behaving like the grown up that I wasn't. Now I lie in a warm bed, a fire blazing, my two little children fast asleep in their rooms, my husband by my side. I make mental notes on the articles I need to submit, the stories needing to be penned and the friends to be caught up with tomorrow. Both situations are more than 10 years apart, the same girl, the same city. Once abhorred, now adored. It's a bittersweet occasion that the time has come to break routines, cut ties, uplift roots and leave. For the fertile plains, the hometown, the wild coast and small scape city that relentlessly calls my name. Until now the hometown has been a place of Christmases spent wandering through lit-up trees, passing old familiar faces. Some called out and grinned with open arms. Some gave a wa...

Youer Than You

I turned 30 this year. It was that unspoken age for me where I thought I'd feel as though I had made it. Looking back though, that real age was 24 when my biggest concerns were whether I'd nailed the front page that week and who was coming out for drinks on Friday. Life at 30, while more wonderfully fulfilling, was also more complex. I had a beautiful, intelligent child and another on the way. I was married to the man of my dreams, the guy who had been my biggest support and encouragement throughout a decade. I had spent a good few years enjoying career successes and had gone further than I had ever thought I would, and in some respects less (I wasn't Judy Bailey, not even close), but that was OK. We were still traveling. And in partnership with the bank, hubby and I owned the Auckland roof over our heads and it wasn't even leaking. I realise I have trumpeted each milestone like I've found the holy grail to life success. Hashtag winning. I haven't been so f...

If I Lose it All, At Least I'll be Free

Our twenties are spent rising early. We dutifully treat '5pm knock off' as a quaint relic of the past, waving our managers goodnight as they whisk past us to pick up kids, meet wives and enjoy dinner around the table. On we tap, our fingers nimble at our keyboards. Simultaneously those fingers message workmates about after-work drinks and later manipulate chopsticks to pluck dumplings from bowls placed in laps in front of the TV. "Gritting your teeth, you hold onto me. It's never enough, I'm never complete." At night our dreams are coloured with interviews that need arranging, ideas that need pitching, deadlines that need meeting and features that need rewriting. Our mornings are a flurry of Weetbix and showers and hair dryers and ironing and makeup and traffic. Our phones are bleeping before we hit our desks, deadlines are coming and lunch breaks are going. Contacts get built and ideas knocked down. Egos are bruised and dreams are realised. "Hopin...

Lurve the Cake!

"It's your birthday party today," I told my newly minted two-year-old. This statement didn't elicit excitement about presents or friends or balloons. Nope, the words he dreamily spoke as his eyes lit up? "Birthday cake!" It made me smile too. Munchkin:  August soon developed a sweet tooth like his Mummy (and Daddy, to be fair!) I once floated the idea that my quarters in heaven would consist of regular picnics on rugs, with drinks poured from fine tea sets and the devouring of many exquisite cakes. I love cake. There's something about the fluffy simpleness of sugar, flour, butter, egg, milk and vanilla essence topped with a layer of icing sugar and more essence that makes the heart sing. And that's before you start hitting the unbeatable flavours of banana with caramel frosting or carrot cake with cream cheese. And that's not even to mention coconut with passionfruit, lemon drizzle, rosewater sponge, or dirty old chocolate m...

Crazy Idea #20

The Robinsons are restless. Beneath the calm, sleepy surface, dreams are brewing. They always draw us away from where we are, our friends, our home and launch us into the exciting. The unknown. In days gone past we would relish these dreams, pinning our hopes upon them like children. We would ride each wave and cry out as they tumbled down. We pined for city streets and new scenes, skyscrapers and aeroplanes. We yearn for greatness, to build our walls high, to extend the vineyard. But a part of me wants to cower under the covers, return to slumber and wait for all of this to blow over. Waking up, I want to find that I am still a mummy writer, James is still an IT project manager and we are unfazed about the mortgage over our heads.